necessary, and even our inexperienced participants were surprised by how much time had passed.
Everyone was enjoying meditation, and finding it helpful.
means: feeling an emotion; recognizing what it is and putting a name to it; researching what is
the trigger and understanding it.
people, with long life experience, who are emotionally mature and are already practising
what we have been examining.
and giving it a framework. This helps in understanding and justifying our behaviour and attitudes.
in her busy week, and enjoys our friendship as we share our stories.
in life, one of them being what to do about any bad experience that hurt us deeply in the past.
our feelings and allow ourselves to feel them, whether to trusted family member, friend,
or counsellor. We need to explore what happened and gain an objective understanding
of the event, including the behaviour of all concerned.
This naturally led on to our next new topic.
of hurt inflicted. If the person won’t listen to you, it might be a good idea to approach them again,
along with some else. If they are neither remorseful nor repentant, it is not necessary to forgive
the behaviour. We may feel sorry for the person, or not, but we may choose to move out
of their life, and move them out of our lives. This is perfectly legitimate. They had no right
to inflict such pain. We leave them in the past and choose to move into the present, with the
incident released from our emotions.
Everyone understood the concept, and some found it useful to realise that it is not necessary
to forgive the behaviour.